What do you say to someone who sees you fairly regularly (about 2-3 times a month) and says, “Wow, have you been losing weight?”
Whoa! What? Uh, well, now I’m stunned since I haven’t really lost any weight – maybe 4 lbs in the last 3 months (I can lose/gain that in a day from water weight!). So I say, “Uh, yes. It must be the warm weather and all of the running around I’m doing.” She’s like, “That’s what I thought! You look great!”
We said our goodbyes and I walked away puzzling until my puzzler was sore (borrowing from the Grinch). Usually, you don’t say something like that unless someone has visibly lost maybe 10-15 lbs. What did I look like before? Or What did she think I looked like before? Did I look 15 lbs heavier last week? I asked my daughter (who witnessed the awkward moment), “What would make her say that? Is it what I’ve been wearing?”. She was as stumped as I was.
About two months ago, one of my co-workers said to me, “Those pants make you look really thin. You look great.” What does that mean? That I’m not really thin, but that I just look thin? The pants created an optical illusion? Maybe I should wear those pants all of the time!
I have literally been the same weight for the last 6 years or so. Hmmm..
At this point in my life, I’m pretty comfortable with who and what I am body-wise. Would I like rock-hard abs? Hell yeah! But, I can’t devote 8 hrs a day to doing sit-ups (or core-building). I’m lucky if I get in 30 minutes!
But, I have to say that the comment yesterday did throw me off a bit. I think I’m in pretty good shape for an old broad, but…..Should I start working out more? Watch my diet even more closely? Another, Hmmmmm……
Here are some other questions/statements that have been said to me over the years (some more current than others – apparently some have scarred me for life since I still remember them!):
As I’m walking into the lunchroom to get my lunch from the microwave another employee walks in simultaneously and says, “What’s that smell?!” [Do I admit that it’s my lunch?] “It’s my lunch – lamb and lentil stew.” She smiles awkwardly, makes a funny, and slinks out o f the break room.
“That haircut makes your face look thin!” – What did my face look like before?
“I wouldn’t buy that house, but I can see why you guys like it.” – Uh, okay!
“I can’t wear that color, but it looks good on you.” – I guess that can be true, but why do you have to preface it with the “I can’t wear it”?
“White bread? Oh, my kids have always eaten wheat bread.” – I guess we suck as parents!
“Do you want to have your eyebrows done?” – Hey, I just came in for a pedicure! If I wanted my eyebrows ripped out by the roots, I would have said so! They ask me this every time I go in for a pedicure – they must look pretty unruly, but I think they have character!
I’m sure everyone has heard similar comments – no one is immune. Also, I’m not perfect – I have uttered careless comments over the years. And, usually after I’ve uttered said comment, I think to myself, “Ooops, that’s not how it sounded in my head!”
After yesterday’s awkward moment, I’m adding “think before you speak” as a personal growth agenda item.
By the way, did you have a nose-job because you look great!